Ladies, (and I apologize for the length)
I ressurected this topic because I am in the midst of scouring my life house, so to speak. And all material I no longer use and do not need, all dead weight I must release from dead end relationships I must let go...
I read
In The Meantime by Ilyanla Vanzant which has helped me immensely to reliquish the negativity I choose to hoard... I suggest that all ladies take the test in the first parts of her book and see which way you would respond given the question...
In response to the article, IMHO, there are forces that go way beyond most Afrikans in amerikkklan understandings of the nature of what our love connections should be. Sonbufo Some's book,
Intimacy of the Spirit really clarified it for me as she related how her and her husband's Afrikan village and culture understands human interaction. One issue I had difficulty understanding was her concept that "no ONE of use belongs to each other--we ALL belong to each other and for the village"...
The other issue that helped me draw a perspective on our Man-Woman relationships is my pursuit and practice of the Tantra. In order to truthfully connect to another
responsible human being, we MUST connect on a spiritual level. Given that most bruhs insurmountable odds for dealing in the MAN's world, how can we as sistahs demand that bruhs give us love similar to that which we see in the mainstream society... Rap artists already are find the folly of it when they discuss the "bling bling"... Just think of those who never will obtain it...
And although our bruhs face odds inconceivable, we sistahs do too! And ironically, when you KNOW OUR TRUE heritage--as Afrikan Centered, then you know that it was our woman that lead nations to their enlightenment--something that only can be a false attempt of mimicry by europee-on studs... Mitochondrial Eve, Auset, Neith, Hapshepset, Tyre, The Kandaces--Queen of Sheba-Makeda, Tiamat, Nefertiti, Neferteri, Sekhemet, Nephyths, Nandi, Nzingha...
Then all D4 Sororities can add to this list of our Universal anscestry...
So knowing that we Afrikan women--no ladies--no Goddesses--are beholden to an extensively RICH legacy, it is little wonder that most men can barely withstand our awesome powers... The Universe started with US--who do you think can end it... That is why we can never annihilated or become extinct--Humankind rests on OUR continued existence...
Just remember what I just mentioned when you allow stupid boys to mistreat you and not honor your true ancestorial spirit... Always walk within the blessed... I only say these statements because I've been there, I've done that...
Have a truly Blessed and Loving day!
