Dear Greek Cutie,
I can sorta relate to your problem. When I got my big sister I didn't even know who she was. She wasn't one of the people on my list so I was very nervous. My big sis wasn't very active in the chapter so she failed to do the things she should have with me. But, luck would have it that I got very close with a bunch of the girls in the pledge class ahead of mine and I adopted one of them as my surrogant big sis. I did it in a way so that my real big sis didn't know about it (so I didn't hurt her feelings). Needless to say I didn't need just ONE big sis to have a BOND!
However, as a suggestion to your chapter and to whomever pairs up big sis/lil sis...
We were advised that if you honestly did not have time to devote to having a lil sis, that you did not take one. It's not fair to the lil sis! So perhaps bring that up in a nice way and see what the chapter has to say about it!
Good Luck and remember that you're loved by ALL your sisters!!!
Hootie
