I hope that I can be helpful here...
In my fraternity, we have had guys who have "come out" after pledging and after initiating. It was hard, because we didn't want to become known as "the gay fraternity", and we all know how important image is on any campus. But rather than run from the issue, we decided to discuss it as adults and as college students. We actually had a speaker come in to our house who made a fictional movie about his experience as a closeted SAE while he was in school. He was the popular guy with a "secret" (God, that SO sounds like a Lifetime movie!). The movie is called "Defying Gravity" and it is available at
www.wolfevideo.com. Afterwards, he talked about what it was like to be in the closet at school, and how afraid he was that his brothers would not accept him. My own personal thought is that your sexuality is your business, and that who you choose to be with is between you and that person (or persons). As long as you love yourself, then being gay or even being in a GLO is no big deal-college is still great without it. Just don't compromise who you are and be unhappy for four or more years just because you want to "Go Greek". Be yourself, because college life is only a SMALL part of your whole life, and you'll still be able to make lifelong friends no matter if you are in a GLO or not, and that is what really matters. By the way, I know that it really matters where you are located in terms of your openness (let's face it, if you are in the South or in a small town-then it's going to be difficult).
GOOD LUCK!!!!