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Originally Posted by ForeverRoses
I kept my name, my husband kept his name. We've been married 10 years and it hasn't been a major issue in terms of confusion. (Our boys have his last name)
My husband was a bit confused when I told him that I didn't want to change my name, but we discussed it in pre-marriage counseling and it came down to it not being a deal-breaker for him, but it was for me. He just wanted to kids to have his name, and I was fine with that.
As far as socially, I don't really care what the invitation says- I would prefer to be called by my first name anyway, but if you want to be formal I will accept either name.
I was asked by one of my son's teachers if my son was ever confused why we didn't share a last name, and I asked if any of the kids in the room whose parents were divorced/remarried or divorced/mom takes back maiden name were confused. I figured our kids had parents that were still happily married, if all they were worried about was last names, then we did a pretty good job!
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Good point...you guys have your priorities in check with your kids! When I was getting married, it wasn't even an issue. My husband doesn't even want his own last name since it's so bizarre! My dad who rales against femi-nazis (yeah, I grew up listening to Rush Limbaugh riding in my dad's truck) likes that I kept my maiden name. He likes having a doctor in the family!
The only reason I started using my husband's name at all was that is made travel arrangements a little easier when we traveled together. My driver's license has my maiden name as my middle name so even if I by a plane ticket in my maiden name, I can get through security with my license as identification. My passport is still in my maiden name, though, which annoys my husband for some reason.