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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek
Earlier today, I was talking to one of my classmates who's engaged, but she wants to hyphenate her last name when she marries her fiance'. Apparently, he's making a big deal out of it and doesn't want to go through with it unless she uses his last name, only. Seriously? I mean, if I were married, I personally would rather use my husband's last name, but I totally don't think anything is wrong with someone who prefers hyphenated last names. I just don't get why he's making a huge deal out of it. I mean, if she loves him and he loves her, why is it a big deal? Good grief, it's just a last name. Thoughts/opinions?
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If my husband had reacted that way, I honestly don't think I would have married him. It is a values issue, and if you can't agree on something like that, then it really doesn't bode well for the long term.
(Neither myself nor my husband were willing to give up our last names, and so we decided - since we do plan to eventually have children and would like to have one name together as a family - to hyphenate them as MyLastName-HisLastName and both legally change our names to that.)
ETA: And just before anyone asks the inevitable question - "But what're your kids supposed to do? Add *another* hyphen??" - that would be entirely up to them. I could see either doing either MyLastNameORHisLastName-TheirSpouse'sLastName, or just keeping their name, or just taking their spouse's name. I don't see why on earth I would choose my last name based on what my hypothetical future children would potentially choose to do at some hypothetical future time.