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DrPhil:
I do agree- things are only important if you give them weight. Things have been shared with me recently about some undergraduate ladies from a few sororities (read: two), who have had an issue with a few other young ladies who were in an aux org. They were upstanding individuals, so it really shouldn’t have been important, but it was made to be…we lose quality women that way and they go elsewhere. That is a sad thing…
…and yes, from the very beginning is correct. The truth is, we all want to believe that we have been told all that there is to know. While fraternities get caught up in how “hard” their processes were, we get caught up in knowing EVERYTHING there is, when we can’t. I do not claim to know everything, or even most things- I strive for new knowledge about life, not just in the greek world, daily. That said, if there is one thing I know- the connection was from the beginning. Most folk aren’t going to know that, so I don’t blame the skepticism. Some were just better known than others.
Ladygreek:
You said that you were an Omega Pearl. That’s remarkable that you put that comment in past tense. If you had some kind of process with those men, they must have entrusted to you some valuable and private information. Although I have no immediate allegiance to that org, it saddens me that you would throw away such a connection.
I understand the feeling that, should you have become a member of a D9 org, you have ascended to “greater” things. Truly, I do. But the idea that you would pledge something and then disown something else is a red flag. I would be nervous to share information with any young lady who was so willing to throw any process away. All I could ask myself is: would she do that with my org?
And, you’re right, I am not in undergrad anymore, but I have plenty of family and mentees that are. I am well informed that aux orgs have been banned. I understand why. With the onset of pledging, girls are a liability because they can be hurt. Many fraternities would not be able to recover from such a lawsuit. That said, they do still exist and operate on a regular basis on campuses across this country. That is clear, or this post wouldn’t exist…to respond to your final statement, of course the aux orgs aren’t autonomous. They were never meant to be. It just seemed irrational to say that something doesn’t exist because it is banned. I’m sure some of us can think of a variety of things that people do that aren’t allowed, but are still done…jaywalking maybe? ☺
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