thanks so cal girl! i really appreciate your input. you are a sweetheart. i think i will try the helping out with rush thing first, good idea! you're right about getting to know myself..at my school, the tri-delts were labeled as the snobby pretty girls, but in fact, yes my sisters were pretty, but also so down to earth and a family of sisters that i will sorely miss. i will be a junior, so it's no big deal if i don't affiliate, but it's nice to have that option. thanks again!