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what will you GAIN by telling?....NOTHING!
I agree that a person should never cheat. But if its done its done. If that person is TRULY sorry, they should never do it again.
People are acting like I'm crazy for telling Proffessor not to tell. Why don't you tell Proffessor what he will GAIN by telling?
Somebody said that if his wife finds out on her own, she made take the kids, the house, etc....do you think she wouldn't do that ANYWAY if he told her? that makes no sence. If he wants to PREVENT his kids from the pain of divorce, PREVENT unrest in his happy home, PREVENT his wife from going thru all the pain and emotional devistation (from which she will be SCARRED for life), then he shouldn't tell her. The urge to tell comes from guilt. This guilt will not be alleviated by telling. He should carry the burden of guilt and spare his wife AND kids from the pain of his actions. What she don't know woun't hurt her...why destroy what you have? It doesn't make sence. Knowing you did the right thing does not produce a better outcome than saving your wife and kids from the pain. So please tell me what possible gain he can get from confessing. explain to me how the positives of telling outweight the negatives of keeping it to himself.....they DON'T.
for the sake of your wifes self-esteem and mental well being
for the sake of your kids
DON"T TELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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