I also have no first hand experience at Bama, but from reading these message boards I would gather that grades at Bama are extremely important. At my school (campus total isn't even teh size of bama's nm classes) you have to have a 2.5 to even go through recruitment and for my chapter a 3.0 to even be invited back the second night. So grades are extremely important! and this is no where near as competitive as Bama. I'd say at Bama you probably need a 3.7(ish) to even be competitive along with recs, resume, hs activities, adn a great personality. As far as the honors program; Greek women probably are involved, hoever they may not be a huge part of their life. They take honors classes, but don't really participate in the honors program activites (itramurals, stepshow, movie nights, etc.) because they are so heavily involved in their sorority. This could be why it wasn't mentioned my sorority women. Also they would be living ing their sorority house not on the honors dorms. As for pnms I'm sure their will be plenty and plenty more on scholarship. They simply may have not been at preview weekend, or may your daughter just simply didn't meet them.
Best of luck to your daughter.