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Originally Posted by APhiAnna

This is so stupid I almost can't handle it. Being worried about prestige of a chapter on your campus is immature, but understandable. I think we forget that most PNMs are 18 year old who are still trying to find their place in the world...while even a college senior may be totally over "prestige", maybe the 18 year old still has a couple years before he/she gets to that state of comfort with themselves (because let's be honest, questions of prestige all go back to a sense of insecurity with yourself, not the org).

But worrying about a national fraternities prestige?? NOBODY CARES. Really. Alpha Phi has chapters that consistently have the highest return rates, and chapters that are struggling with just about every facet of their reputation. Every PHC and IFC chapter does as well (it might be different in other conferences).

People will make assumptions about your chapter/fraternity post college based on what YOU are like. I met a guy who had only been out of college for about 3-4 years...incredibly good looking, great conversation skills, very "good ol' boy" attitude and had a fantastic finance job. He had mentioned that he was an ABC, and I made the assumption that the chapter had to have been a "good ol' boy" chapter. Later I learned that this chapter was starving for members. Let me tell you, it is definitely not hurting this guy AT ALL. He is making six figures already and he has a line of attractive women waiting to date him.

Seriously, I have never met a guy this concerned with a fraternities national prestige, especially if their chapter was strong. Sounds like you might have some bigger internal issues to address.

Ding ding.

I have never once stopped talking to a guy after finding out he was an alumnus of a fraternity chapter that wasn't the most popular back in school.

It just doesn't matter that much.

Unless of course you live in some sort of isolated part of the South where things like this matter for the rest of your life...