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A lot of people feel this way! I think I told this story before, but there was a girl in our chapter who just did not have any friends in her pledge class. You could tell she wanted to be in the sorority, but felt uncomfortable at the socials, philanthropies, etc because she didn't know anybody.
After a couple years, she decided to participate in a dance competition amongst the sororities for a philanthropy. She was a fairly good dancer. Just during the few weeks she practiced with them, she became close friends with a majority of the other dancers. Now she is thriving and is friends with the vast majority of the chapter.
The key is something like a committee, intramural team, team for Derby Days/Greek Week/Homecoming (whatever your school has), Bible study, etc. The reason being is that there are going to be sisters from every year, group of friends, etc in that particular activity. If you are the sister who mainly shows up to socials and meetings, your whole chapter will be there and girls will mostly be socializing with their best friends already. If you join an activity that is a cross-section of the entire chapter, people will be much more willing to interact with members they don't know as well. It becomes a domino effect...at the next social, you will feel comfortable hanging out with Jenny Junior, and through her you will meet her friends, etc.
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