[Leslie Anne]

Since you're looking for someone with a similar situation for feedback, I'll offer you mine. There was a time in my collegiate years when I felt that the members of my sorority and I had different values. I was also upset about something that was going on and the attitude the sisters had towards it.

Like you, I considered contacting National HQ about my problem. (Although it wasn't to inform HQ about my sisters, but rather to find out if I had to participate in an event.) Unlike you, there was no way in hell I was going to resign my membership.

What I ended up doing is taking Alumna status which is not an option for you.

Looking back on this whole situation 20 years later, I realize that I was so caught up in the drama of the moment that I failed to see that most of my sisters weren't even aware of anything going on. I could have and should have talked to my sisters.

What I regret is that I didn't take the time to talk it out with my sisters. I regret taking Alumna status. I could have had an entire extra year in my sorority. I regret leaving instead of sticking it out.

I hope this is helpful to you in some way.

ETA: The fact that you've come here for help in deciding whether or not to resign tells me that you really don't want to. I would focus on that and figure out a way to make this all work. Nothing worth while is easy.