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Originally Posted by gagirl90
example of why i am not a fan of greeks as a whole. look, i know you devote your life to this website but please could you not be such a prick to me because i'm a "newb" and just want some effing feedback from people who are deciding whether to drop their sorority... idk as maybe a support thread?
clearly this does not apply to you so please don't reply if it is irrelevant. thanks for trying to help so far but like i said before i think other people who have also been though this situation may have more relevant advice to me.
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I'll be blunt with you, a lot of us won't share specific details about issues we've had because we worked through it and don't want to put our organizations or brothers and sisters on blast. I'd use an example of a friend but it may be false as I wasn't involved and only heard her side. We keep suggesting what we're suggesting because it has worked for us and other people. Most of the people I know who resigned regretted it because it was a permanent solution to a short term problem. You're concerned about your social standing and social life because of your school and membership, and want to be in an alumna group. The first may not be an issue, but the second one will definitely be one. I know for some groups you resign, that is it, forever. Others may be more forgiving, you won't know and can't go back at that point.
I know it is very hard because of the situation you mentioned and deleted, and I do not blame you one bit for anger, hurt, frustration, and all of it; but these are a few women at one point in time and if you can get some perspective, do it because it is a decision you're obviously struggling with. I'm guessing you're 19 or 20 and you're in close quarters with these people and it is hard to see beyond it because it is all around you.