[Rhomance]

Hello SoRhor,
I see that you are in a bind. The only advice that I can offer you is to be fair and accept or deny her on the merits that you would accept or deny someone that you are not friends with. If she doen't make it explain to her the qualifications and that she wasn't what the sorority was looking for in general. Tell her it is not personal agianst her but it is business. I too had a friend who wanted to join this year but she would not do the the name Sigma Gamma Rho justice. She had done some pretty wild things on campus that eveyone one was aware of. Although she had settled down and changed her reputation still proceeded her. She was also not the type to WORK so we could not afford her. We need workers and we need people to be an asset not just another member. I know how you feel and hope that you can break it to her nicely. But you must remember that just because they are your friends does not mean that they are meant to be your soror. But most of all do what is right for you beacuse in the end that is all that matters