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Originally posted by stoplook_listen
I admitted that cheating is bad. I never said it wasn't. I just think women blow it out of proportion. Couples do plenty of things wrong to each other: argue, neglect, take for granted, etc. These things are bad, but they sometimes happen unintentionally. After they are discussed, usually you come to the conclusion that the other person didn't mean to make you feel bad by inadvertently doing that stuff. With cheating, women make it out like you are saying they are worthless or like you don't give a damn about them. Why blow it up and read more into it than what it is. When a man cheats, he doesn't think "I can't stand my girl, she aint nothin, I want to lower her self-esteem, and hurt her." Thats what alot of women paint the scenario as. It is just an act of lust...that's it...plain and simple. Can't you understand the difference between love & lust? YOu have a right to be upset...but don't read so much into it and blow it out of proportion. Again, I agree it's wrong and one should have more self control, but nobody is perfect and you have to realize that a mans threshold of being at "the point of no control" is significantly higher than a womans. If I'm just chillin and a woman all of the sudden strips and pounces me...I can try and muff her or throw her down, but that would be too violent on a woman. Most of the time you try and reasonwith her but she don't care. she bent on seducing you...and you got that woody. Unless you been their you can't judge. We are all animals and have a state of being in "heat" that is a biological imperitive. I'm just using science to back up my point (not to excuse it)
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Again, a married person (or person in a committed relationship) has no business being alone with someone that they could end up cheating with. If you are always around a group or somewhere with your significant other or spouse, then you would be less likely to have the opportunity to cheat. This is what I'm talking about. People want to still be doing the same things they did when they were single. A man wouldn't have to worry as much about not being able to stop another woman from "seducing" him if he wasn't alone with her. When the woman starts to try and "seduce" a man first by words (which I'm sure is the case because I doubt the woman goes from Hello to taking his pants down), then that man should remove himself from the situation if he knows he wouldn't be able to stop himself if she continues to flirt.
And to your example, if you're in a committed relationship or married, WHY IN THE HELL ARE YOU IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU ARE CHILLIN WITH ANOTHER WOMAN THAT WOULD BE ABLE TO POUNCE YOU, as you say? Now see, that's what's wrong in the first place. Don't have no business being there.
I don't even want to keep having these discussions, because a person will constantly try to justify what they WANT to do regardless of the consequences, when they should be trying to ensure that they do what they SHOULD be doing.
"Excuses are tools of the incompetent that build..." Let me stop. Thought I was on line again
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