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Originally Posted by Geauxme
I wish there was an anonymous button on this web site as this is not a comfortable story for me to tell... 
The short version is this; I have a family member who promised to help me acquire a couple of recs for my rush in the fall. I ran around like a crazy putting together a nice resume, making sure to send some nice photos, gathered my grades and the US equivalences of these, and had a very nice presentation of myself if I do say so myself. I sent them to said family member, all the while believing it was going to be passed along to her friends in various sororities which would have gotten me about 5 of the required 10 recs I need.
Family member tells me that this is taken care of... low and behold I have found out (don't ask how... LOL) that my information has not been sent/forwarded to anyone.. I have not told this family member that I know the truth... I asked if she needed anything else to which she replied "God no, it's all been sent to my friends already". 
I can't believe she would lie and deceive me like this! She knows how competitive the school I'm rushing at is, and I worked so hard asking people to help me with recs (which is not easy being halfway across the globe) and TRUSTED her to help me get those 5 out of the way. Now I feel like time is running out and I need to find new people I can trust to send some recs for me. I mean what if I had not found out the truth? Then what? I would have gone through rush thinking I had some wonderful heartfelt and genuine recs, and probably been cut for not having recs at those 5 sororities!  I cannot believe my own family would do that to me?! I am so furious and have no idea what to do now, because if I try to ask around amongst people we know she will most likely hear about it, and get mad at me for not "trusting" her!
Sorry if this is so long, I just need help in figuring out my next step, and how to deal with this backstabbing! |
That would really be the least of my worries right now, if I were you. If she gets mad about you not trusting her, she'll have to come clean about the fact she was unreliable and dishonest. Ask anyone and everyone you know, regardless of if they know this family member.
On the bright side, you've probably already done a lot of the leg work by preparing your resume, photos, grades, etc.
ETA: I also agree with knightshadow's approach.