I don't understand how you went from this:
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Originally posted by Professor
Constance and her family attended my church on Sunday. My pastor said that we had special guest and asked if I would do the welcome. I talked about how this was a special time of year. A time to celebrate the birth of the living savior. A time to renew old friendships and a time for family. I went on to say that God has been good and that I felt like singing my favorite "To God Be the Glory." I hit every note. Monique, I can sing but I don't really go all out unless it is at a funeral. I had the church on fire. Folk were standing and shouting and I even thought my dad was going to cry. I looked over at my mom and she was dabbing her eye. I felt God's love for me and the love that only parents can give. At this point I was nervous and thought this was going to be the time I have waited for all my life. I thought the Holy Ghost was going to send me running around the church - - - you know how some folk do in church. Well, I've always wanted to know that feeling that is so strong that you pass out as you praise the name of Jesus. Unfortunately, it was not my time. Although now neverous, I testified to my parents and church family that God had blessed me. I went on to talk of times at a low and how his love and forgiveness lifted me. I finally said that there is only one thing that could complete my life - a helpmate ( I got the term from Church Folk). I walked over to Constance and said how she enriched my life and helped me to understand the love that my parents share. I took her by the hand and said that individually each of the three diamonds in my hand is representative of friendship, love and happiness and as my wife I promise a lifetime of all three. I finally said "Will you complete my life and become Mrs. Constance .... Monique she cried and cried and cried. I thought she was going to say no for a minute because she could not stop crying. What really got me is when she placed her hands around my face and kissed me lightly on the lips and said yes. I was HAPPY AND EMBARASSASED at the same time. After all we were in church and I wanted to . . . well you know what I mean. Everyone in church stood and clapped. My parents and her aunts and uncle hugged us. My bad seed Brother was even crying and gave us a hug. I could not have wised for a better way of popping the question. Not bad for a brother that is not considered to be a romantic.
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Originally posted by Professor
For me, I had no intention to start my marriage with this hanging over my head. The fact of the matter is that is was not emotional - - just timing and a physical thing. I'm not in love nor do I have any feelings for the young lady. She seduced me and at some point I just was not strong enough to resist. I'm sorry it happened.
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in a matter of 4 months? I just don't understand. And you can't understand why some women are bitter and say some of the things they say about men.
This is why women have so much distrust for men. You give your all-heart, body and soul- and it's abused. After one has gone through the cycle enough times, we just give up and lose all faith in finding that special one. There is no more love or trust to give and we can't take the next guy seriously. All those blows to the heart make it hard. So in turn, we become bitter letting our hardened heart control our minds and thoughts. Professor you state, "women are always talking about men and cheating". Well you just added two more women to the pool who can attest to this fact.