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Okay enough of the excuses. Life is choices, life is consequences, life is self control.
Example, I work out and lift weights several times a week and try to eat healthy about 5 days a week. I do all this for health and appearance. Now there are times during those 5 days that I would love to eat junk or times when I don't feel like working out and just want to go home after work and sprawl out, however I have a choice to make. Do I (a) want to eat whatever I want and never lift a finger thus making me overweight or do I (b) use my self control and do what I need to do to have the result that will make me feel (and look) my best?
Same in cheating. Do you go for the quick thoughtless gratifying choice that will probably result in hurt feelings, anger, destruction, and a loss of something/someone important or do you use the self control God blessed us with to try and make sure that you are not intentionally hurting anyone.
Don't make excuses. People have to learn not to put themselves in tempting situations. And so what you may have to give up some things that YOU want to do so that your marriage can work. Again, life is choices. If having certain freedoms are more important than making a marriage last, then that's the choice one has to make.
My opinion is that marriages in this day and age don't last because everyone still wants to act just like they did when they were single. People today are just so damn selfish. I swear!! Always trying to justify why they messed up. People should just make it plain and simple and say, "At whatever moment I messed up, I was completely selfish, thought only of myself, my needs and my wants. At no time during my selfish moment did I stop to think about those that would be affected by my actions. I felt I had to do what I wanted to do regardless of how the people I love would want me to do otherwise or regardless of how they may be hurt."
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