[RaggedyAnn]

I'm sorry to hear that you are having a strained relationship with your Big. I hope this comes out right, because I do have sympathy. A Big's primary responsibility is to mentor you and get you ready for initiation. After that, any relationship and friendship is great, but not a necessary part of your sorority life. Trust me when I say you can have a very positive sorority experience without that relationship. I haven't spoken to my Big in sixteen years. It was difficult at first when our relationship parted ways, but in the long run, it didn't make that much of an impact in my life.

If you want to build your relationship, you almost have to start from scratch. Instead of dinners, maybe just get cups of coffee? The time would be shorter and maybe less stressful? You could also try and get to know your twin...but why not work on your other sorority relationships. Not every sister will have a great relationship with their Big/Little. I personally think that sometimes too much stock is put in those relationships.