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Originally Posted by APhiAnna
PLEASE don't tell any of the chapter members this story when you rush. If a girl named Ivy came through and said her mom always lovedAlpha Phi and wanted to join, and that she wanted to join Alpha Phi because of her mom and only went to school with Alpha Phi chapters...well all I can say is that it would be a legendary story in my chapter and there is no way "Ivy" would be at our house on bid day. It is a well meaning story, but it is just way too forward to be shared at recruitment.
The other thing I have to say is this: you may be putting way too much pressure on yourself to appease one chapter during recruitment. Think about it from this perspective...if you idealize a person too much (a boy, a celebrity, a professor, etc) when it comes time to meet them you are likely to stutter, say stupid things, shut down or maybe even get that "crazy cat lady" look in your eyes. It doesn't matter that you can get along with any other person, because you haven't idealized those people and they are therefore approachable.
I worry that you have idealized KD to the extent that you will be far too nervous to make a good impression...the anxiety shows, and it doesn't go over well. Remember that the KDs are just people...if you pardon my vulgarity, they fart just like the rest of us. If you view them as deities it will NOT go over well, and will only make you look "beneath" them.
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Wow, I always wanted the KD forum to pick up a little, but not sure this is what I had in mind.....
AphiAnna, this is a wonderful post, and I echo everything you said. I completely understand how a high school girl with little experience of greek life might not understand how this comes across to others.
But now, Kaydeebug, you need to take the advice you have been given--while some of it may be painful to hear, it is all helpful and realistic. This story will NOT help you, and your mother's attitude (on this particular issue) is not healthy.
Go to school, meet people, go through recruitment with an open mind, and DO NOT share this story. No need to apologize, just accept (even if you don't yet understand) that this situation/story will not help you in any way. With anything.
As a mom myself, I am wishing you a great college experience. Have fun and create and live your own dreams!