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Originally Posted by abbeyroad3
Well it sounds like the both of us don't have a chance in hell of getting what we want at all, so we're sticking it out for a month or so.
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Ugh. Why does this have to be about what you want? If you have made it to spring semester of your freshman year of college (oh wait, you are at UVA.. your, ahem, 1st year) and have gotten everything that you want in life then you have led a very charmed existence.
A few things to consider:
1. Recruitment isn't just about what
you want. The sororites get to decide what/who they want too... and to be blunt- you weren't it. Sorry if that stings, but it is the way that it goes. In the same way that you don't "want" your current chapter, the other chapter that you did like did not want you enough to have you at the top of their list. Simple as that.
2. Now that you are grown up you will find that life is full of not getting what we want, and often times that turns out to be the best for us. You may not get into the grad school that you want, may not get the job that you want, may not get to date/marry the guy that you want. But guess what? Life has plenty of options and we all not only grow from those type of experiences/short term let-downs, we later realize that "what we wanted" wasn't really the best thing for us after all.
I wouldn't have had my little sister in my sorority, my best friend at college, or even met my husband had each of them "got what they wanted." However, we are all so very happy that my lil sis didn't get her 1st choice chapter (see you aren't the only one!), my best friend didn't get the full ride to her 1st choice college, and my husband didn't get into residency at Hopkins. Life went on for all of them, and not a one of them can imagine life any other way.
I really am just
that you came on here and posted this after just one day in your chapter. For crying out loud- give it some time!! And "Sticking it out" doesn't count. Make an effort to get to know those in your new member class and the chapter. This means that you have to BE a friend to MAKE a friend. No sulking, no pity-parties, no grass-is-greener attitude. Invite sisters to lunch. Go out shopping with them. Do something silly together. IT TAKES TIME FOR BONDS TO FORM, and yes, I was yelling.
You are at a great university with a great Greek LIfe. Enjoy it. Don't throw away the fantastic opportunity that you were given.