This is a strange flip side of my a cappella rush story...finding out in the morning that I DID get cast in a play gave me the confidence to try out for the singing groups.
I can understand how having a very bad day can cloud your judgment temporarily, especially as a first year student. It sounds like both mom and daughter understand that the daughter made a hasty mistake, and will be more open to opportunities in the future as a result. There are TONS of ways to get involved on campus at the school we're talking about. Maybe she could swallow her pride and volunteer at the show she didn't get cast in -- painting scenery is a great way for freshmen to get to know upperclassman actors and directors who will be more likely to remember her face at next semester's auditions.
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GONG BONGS