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Originally Posted by vanityfair5

A NOT hypothetical situation, but I'll use cheesy Greek code to explain what is going on here:

I attend Cyprus Rhodes University and just went through Formal Recruitment. At the end of Pref Night I listed my choices putting ZBZ first, Tri Pi second, and IKI third. I was fairly certain I would get a bid from ZBZ the next morning, as both girls I talked to said "they could really see me there." But, I got a bid from Tri Pi.
Of course I was upset but I went to the Bid Day party. And I really didn't like it. I didn't fit in with my Pledge Class and I was SO not excited to go back for my first new member meeting. I decided to give it a week, so I did, and I still don't like it very much. It's just not the place for me. But I know that ZBZ is!
I have my Pledging-In ceremony THIS Friday and of course want to make my decision to drop out or not before then. I don't know what to do! I can't imagine NOT being Greek after I have wanted to for so long, but I definitely know this is not the place for me to do so.
I also know that after signing my Preference List I am bound to a sorority for a full year before I can rush again. BUT, one of the sororities on my Pref Night list was all it said. So does ZBZ technically count? They have snapped maybe like 1 or 2 girls since Bid Day in...could I work my way in w/o getting in trouble with NPC? I am DESPERATE here, let me know any loopholes I can work with! (And suggestions on how to get snapped in/ informally be recruited in--since that is going on right now!)

THANK YOUUUUU!

Once you accepted a bid, you must wait one full calendar year before going through recruitment again. Even though you didn't get a bid from ZBZ, the same rule applies to all sororities. You are ineligible for snap bids, COR, and informal recruitment (if they do it.)

If you weren't going to be happy in Tri Pi or even IKI, I don't understand why you didn't just suicide ZBZ? You got a bid to Tri Pi because they saw something in you and you went to bid day and "didn't like it at all"? Are you serious? How would ZBZ's bid day party be any different? And how do you know that ZBZ "is the place for you"? They obviously didn't think that you would fit in with them.

Honestly, I doubt you took the time to get to know your sisters of Tri Pi. It's only been a week you said and what have you done to get to know your sisters? Have you invited any out to a movie or out for lunch? I can't believe you are complaining after only being in a sorority for a week and you are already making judgments about your pledge sisters and claiming how much you dislike Tri Pi because you are just bitter that you didn't get a bid from ZBZ.

"I can't imagine NOT being Greek after I have wanted to for so long, but I definitely know this is not the place for me to do so. "

Such a contradiction. ZBZ didn't want you this time and chances are they probably wouldn't the second time. There is no guarantee that you even get a bid the second time going through formal recruitment.

Just do Tri Pi a favor and depledge. You will never be happy with Tri Pi because you will always think about what might of happened if you did this or that.