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Originally Posted by karmelgirl
Thank you Violet. My daughter could be the girl referenced in the link above. The total package, but from the north and going to a "sort of" southern school. Straight A's, very well dressed, articulate, very well liked in her dorm, outgoing, and I know for a fact she had great recs. I was Greek, so she was also a legacy at a top house.
She spent her winter break getting her wardrobe together, writing thank you's to the alums that wrote her recs...etc...
Round 1 15 houses - had fun, liked most
Round 2 cut by 2 houses, so she went to 8 of her top 10 and 2 from the bottom of her list. Pretty good so far.
Now it gets bad...round three, 6 possible houses... and she gets cut from 5 of her top 7, including her legacy house. That leaves 2 houses she loves, and three from the bottom of her list for a total of 5 parties.
Now it is the day to see where you are going for prefs. That morning, she finds out that she didn't make the cast in a campus production she had her heart set on, was totally invested in. It was a really really sad morning. At noon she gets her list. From the 5, the top 3 cut her. She was left with her bottom 2, they had been her bottom 2 all week.
All of her friends did fine. She decided not to go to prefs that night....so she dropped. Between not making the cast and getting cut from all but her bottom 2 houses this confident, beautfiul girl was too sad to make herself go. Who can blame her?
As her mother who is hours away, I am at a loss for what to do....and at a bigger loss to understand how this could have happened. I so want an explanation...was there a mistake of some kind? Who would not want this child?
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I went through formal recruitment this year and I can say that my sorority was not the top the whole week, in fact they were in the middle the whole time during formal recruitment and another sorority I preffed I ranked very last every day of the week. I was dropped from sororities I thought I made a great connection with and that I can see myself in, but when it came to pref day there was only 2 that wanted me, AOII and "XYZ". XYZ has always been the last on my ranking, but I went to their pref anyway and I had a change of heart. I ended up loving XYZ, but I felt at home with AOII.
Although my experience isn't the same as everyone that went through formal recruitment, I can say that feelings do change after pref day.
Maybe some sororities will end up doing informal recruitment and she can go through rush again when she does feel better.