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Originally Posted by cheerfulgreek
I just think that everyone has their own views on what a relationship should be about. That's why I wouldn't be with a guy unless we had similar goals, and views of what a relationship/marriage is. Not everyone thinks the same way about it, so if whatever works for you and your Mr. then don't change it. I also don't believe in separate bank accounts, because no matter what kind of income I'm making, I believe what's mine is his and vise versa. However, I also want to feel and know that I'm financially secure with the guy I marry, so our financial goals and views need to match. I also know that he has financial, physical, and emotional needs that I should be meeting. It's just that I think it should work both ways.
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It's obvious you've never been married before, because you're living in a pefect world. Let's see how long you want a joint account when money comes up missing and you can't pinpoint where it went. I love the whole "what's mine is his and vise versa" garbage. It doens't work like that.
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Originally Posted by Munchkin03
It wasn't just because he made less, either. It was income + education + comfort with being around people with more income and education. That's why I can say that I can stomach being with someone who could potentially make less than I IFF they're as educated as I am, can bring something similar to the table, and can feel comfortable. Schoolteachers and public interest lawyers can probably feel comfortable in my world. The grocery checkout guy? The cook/car salesman/retail guy who can't hold down a job long enough to get insurance? Probably not.
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You're kidding me. What's wrong with the grocery check out dude or the other dudes you mentioned? You sound a little shallow. Would you be a little ticked if some dude said he wouldn't date you for shallow, somewhat stupid reasons?