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Somehow I doubt that adding another post to this thread will help anything, but I'm going to stick my neck out there anyway...
There are just some basic facts that everyone is reaffirming, and some other basic opinions that people are stating.
Facts: Gamma Chi is disorganized, confused, lacking a clear means to an end, and in need of some strong input and more leadership.
Fact: Gamma Chi is a real "thing" that does indeed exist, which is if anything proved by the existence of this thread.
Fact: Not everyone likes the same things. Not everyone agrees on what a "thing" even is.
As the founder of a brand new greek organization, I can see both sides. Nu Beta Omicron is indeed disorganized and confused. However, we are working to change it. I am continuously tempted to just give up, but the fact remains that I love NBO and I love the basis of what we were formed for. I want this to suceed, and I want to know that something I adore is thriving because I busted my ass to make it happen.
When I founded Nu Beta Omicron, it wasn't anything real at all. And yet I was personally offended when people- people I considered my friends- insulted my organization or me for being a part of it. I consider greek chat members to be my friends, and I'm assuming (for the most part) others share the same sentiments. I'm not saying that anyone is right or wrong, I think we should all just acknowledge that it can hurt people's feelings when you insult something they care about. Some people have come to this forum and flat out stated that one person's idea was stupid and a waste of time. If you started a club, or an organization, or had any idea at all, would you want someone to say that to you? It's just rude and mean. It hurts feelings. People on greekchat are here to be friendly, and you're hurting a friend by using NON CONSTRUCTIVE CRITICISM. I totally understand if you want to express that Gamma Chi isn't functioning as you had hoped, but there is absolutely no reason beyond basic cruelty to continuously insult a group of people and an idea that you do not need to be a part of. There's a reason that we are taught as young children to do unto others as we would want done unto us. I'm not religious but the golden rule is applicable nonetheless.
It's all about respect. I don't particularly have a whole lot of respect for many things in this big wide world, but I have enough respect for others and myself to not go around talking shit about them for no good reason. When you get right down to it, being outright rude and thoughtless is showing that you have no respect for yourself or for your friends, and I personally don't want to be that person. I realize that I am insulting people right now, and thus disrespecting myself, but I think it is absolutely unforgivable that people are trying to break down something that they don't need to take any part in.
Some things are extreme, and anyone can understand why people might express their distaste for them. The KKK, for example. I don't think that this organization is founded on principles that are fair or good for anyone, so I would be perfectly fine with making that known. But honestly, Gamma Chi is not out to destroy the world, and it's not aiming to hurt anyone. There is no real reason to try to thwart its existence, as far as I can tell.
So let's all try to be nice to eachother, and understand that just because you feel something is true, doesn't mean it is true. I recognize that this post may be pointless, or may be completely wrong, but I hate to see something as fun and helpfull as greekchat be divided in half over something that really isn't that much of a conflict. Don't like it, don't participate. Think there's a problem, then let someone know- in a productive manner- what could be done to make it better. Is it really worth any of this drama? I'm sure we can all see that each and every person on greekchat shares some kind of common ground with everyone else, even if it is just that we all are interested in being a part of positive greek life. There's no need for hate here- save that passion for an argument that could change something in the world that really needs to be changed. I don't mean to be so new agey, but honestly everyone, maybe holding hands and singing kumbaya ain't such a bad idea. No one is saying that Gamma Chi has garnered the respect of any long lasting greek organization. Gamma Chi ISN'T Alpha Chi Omega, or Sigma Alpha Epsilon, or Delta Gamma Pi, or Alpha Kappa Alpha, etc etc etc. But we're trying to make it something that is good for everyone involved, and this process has it's ups and downs. As usual, I totally welcome any comments or suggestions. If anyone actually read to the very end of this loooooong post, I appreciate the attention.
love, Corina
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