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some advice
I experienced some very scary stalking during my freshman year by this guy who was a foreign student (who was not a member of a GLO). He called incessantly and would find opportunities to be near me and so forth. It didn't really come to a head until the summer when he calls me in my hometown 2 hours away (and at work no less) and said he knew it was my birthday and was going to come see me that weekend. I had never told him where I was from or where I was going to work (or that I was going to work!). And I had never told him my birthday. We were hardly close enough of friends to warrant him driving that far, and it terribly freaked me out. In October is when the weird stuff really came up. He gave me a b'day present (3 mo. late) and it was the perfume that I wore, which was more icing on this increasingly scary cake. He stayed around and stayed around and basically wouldn't let me leave where I was at. My salvation is that one of my friends came in and started talking to us, and finally I said "Hey, let's go". My friend and I got up and left, and when we got down the hall, I told him the situation and remarked that I just wished "he'd leave me the hell alone!" The stalker heard this, and I didn't have nearly as many problems. I also consulted the cops on the situation and they gave me some tips but really didn't *do* anything. My saving grace was that 4 months ago he got a job as a translator 14 hours away from here, and I've heard naught from him since. Cautious, I wish you the best of luck. I know this is a scary sitch for you, but I agree w/ the other GC'ers: let the chapter decide. Don't get involved because it could get back to him who went up against him and it could bite a lot more viciously than any of us would want to think about. In the meantime, please go to both local and campus police about the issue, tell them the whole story, and get your friends involved. Have a phone code in case dude shows up. There is safety in numbers.
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