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This whole thread rubbed me the wrong way too, and I had to sit down and really think about why.
To OP reminded me of somebody I know who thinks that people will like her more if they know about her difficult past. She thinks that they will be sympathetic, and that in turn the sympathy generated from her stories will make them like her.
This NEVER works!
The whole underlying theme of this whole thread seemed to be about getting sympathy. You were overweight, nervous, so terrified of rejection that you quit, in a pledge class with people who treated you badly (I'm inferring this is what you meant by your comments), family illness and death, anxiety attacks, life regrets and so on and so forth.
It rings out "Feel sorry for me!" and most people hate the feeling of being manipulated into feeling sorry for somebody (read: very different than genuinely feeling sorry for a friend). I view statements like yours as being manipulated, because I don't know you and I don't believe your reasons for starting this thread.
EVERYBODY has had huge struggles to overcome, so most people do not like hearing about your "special circumstances", especially when we know so many people in worse circumstances who have found ways to overcome their problems and move on in life.
A general principle I've learned in life: people love being around positive people who are confident in being themselves. Once you have earned their respect, then they are willing to listen to your problems and help you out. Until then, a lot of this information is WAY too much and I agree with people who question your real reasons for posting it.
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