[imsohappythatiama]

Cautious:

Bless your heart for trying to help your friends in XYZ overcome "Mark"'s persuasive speaking abilities. I can see that you are torn up inside because you know your "testimony" might help your friends in XYZ convince their brothers that "Mark" needs to be dismissed.

But honey, this is not your business. Frankly, if this happened in my chapter, we would NEVER rely on the "testimony" of a non-member no matter how much we respected that non-member....simply because internal decisions are internal decisions.

If your friends in XYZ who want "Mark" gone can't get their brothers to trust them enough to see their way of thinking, then your "testimony" isn't going to do it either, I suspect.

And you may place yourself (and your chapter) in harm's way at the same time...and that's simply not worth it.

You said that XYZ is a colony...these issues tend to come up during colonization (in fact, I am reminded of a frighteningly similar situation I was involved in when a national fraternity we'll call PiPiPi recolonized on my campus). Colonies usually survive these issues....or they don't. But that's up to the MEMBERS OF THE COLONY.

Again, you are so sweet and utterly lovely to want to help so much, but I beg you to sit on your hands this time. Wish your XYZ friends the best...and hope they can make a strong enough case to bring their brothers around to their way of thinking. If they can't...well, that's for XYZ to deal with, not you.

Best of luck, and above all remember to be self-protective for the good of yourself and your chapter!!!