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Ladies, I think I see a pattern here since many of you had the same problem. It appears that the women are wanting more out of a relationship than the guys are willing to give. Do not expect a guy under the age of 25 or even 30 to be able to commit to a realtionship, there are too many other things that he would rather be doing. Do not complain about being told the truth. If you are last on a list of priorities and you don't like being there you better find someone else. Why would you be upset about the truth? Do you want him to lie? Granted it wasn't very tactful, but guys have never been known for that. I think that forgetting birthdays is inexcusable, but if he did forget how important do you think it was to him? How important do you think you are? You are young, as are the guys, you should all be expected to do what you want and enjoy life. If that does not happen to be the same thing then you should not be together. If he wants to stay out all night and party without you, who are you to say that is wrong? Same thing for you, if you would rather do something other than spend time with him then he is not your top priority and he has no room to complain. You are each doing what you want. The problem is both sexes frequently want their cake and eat it too. Everyone wants to do what they want yet still want their SO to be there whenever they are ready to spend time together.
I agree that descretion is probably a good idea when your sex life is involved. It is a sign of immaturity and reminds me of guys boasting in high school. Best suggestion is that if you are ashamed of it then don't do it. If the problems are in the details then tell the guy that it is between the two of you and if he respects you he will keep his mouth shut. If you are not a top priority then don't be surprised if you are the talk of the campus.
Neither side has any room to complain if they are not deceived, if they are move on to something better. I have had many women dump me over the last 20 years because I didn't want to get married. I told them up front that I was not interested in marriage, but they acted like I lied to them the whole 1 to 3 years that we were together. Not true, it isn't what I wanted. In 1989 I did finally meet a person that I would marry and in a few years it just might happen. It wasn't that I was against being married, but I wouldn't ever do it again unless I thought that it was to the right person and not that it was time or that I was suppose to do it.
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