I think the main factor in men cheating is the attitude of entitlement that certain men have especially when they reach a certain status in society. It was almost a given that men like Micheal Jordan and Bill Clinton, (Even to a certain extent Jessie Jackson, Bill Cosby, Julius Earving, Magic Johnson, etc) would cheat because they were 'entitled' to cheat in their own minds and in the minds of many in society to a degree. But never say women like Oprah Winfrey can cheat, because of a double standard that exists between men and women (when men cheat, we are "studs", but when women cheat, they are 'sluts'). Also, women like men with confidence (on any level) and men with higher amounts of power and influence will definately exude confidence. Also with the perception of there being very few 'Good' black men out there, black women are more and more likely to "share" a man. I think these factors play into the high incidence of infidelity in our community.
But I do not think that men cannot control themselves. If we as men took responsibility for maintaining a committed relationship more seriously from the beginning, then I think we could resist the strongest of women's advances. I once had a friend from college marry a good friend of mine from high school. The friend from college (a man) was saying that he couldn't understand why his wife complained about him still going out on dates with other women
. He said "She knows I'm coming home to her, so what's the problem?" as if he never really expected to remain faithful to his wife. I think men need to take commitment more seriously and more women need to respect a man's commitment to another woman. Just my opinion.
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