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Originally Posted by CRM114
I never really considered myself to be the type of guy to join a fraternity, but when I came to my current school I wanted to broaden my horizons and get more social so I went out to rush. I found a small chapter that seemed to be full of a good mixture of guys who were close to each other. I pledged and was initiated and it was great at first. But a lot of the guys in the chapter are very ambitious and have pushed our house to get bigger. We've almost doubled membership, and as a result I feel the quality of our members and the chapter has dropped. I also feel like we've become one of the stereotypical "d-bag frats" that I hate, most of our members only care about partying and finding good connections with sororities. At rush, it seems that what connections a guy has or how rich his family is matters more than what type of guy he is. Should I just cut my losses and accept that I probably shouldn't have joined this chapter? I love the ideals of my fraternity but nobody else seems to care about them.
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Is this a local or a chapter of a national fraternity?
I never advise people to cut their losses, but it could be the case that this organization was never in your heart. It was more a matter of social convenience. In that case, cut your losses.
As for the bolded, it seems as though the men are shifting to become more social which is what you claimed you were looking for. Correct? You made no mention of what attracted you to this fraternity beyond the social. That's always a formula for disaster. Besides, douchebags and undesirables always infiltrate when you expand your membership. It may balance itself out once you all figure out what you need to have a sustainable chapter.