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I prefer honesty, upfront and always. This doesn't mean that he has to tell me everything about himself on the first date, but if I ask him a question I want an honest answer.
As a relationship unfolds, the nature of the questions change. For me, I have certain questions that I ask and need to have answered before the relationship progresses to the next stage (but not necessarily before, unless it just happens to come up). I hope for and expect complete honesty when he is answering those questions and I reciprocate with total honesty.
I know of one instant where something about me has definitely damaged the relationship, but that has not stopped me from being honest about that aspect of my life in subsequent relationships. It's nothing that I have to be ashamed of, it was just that dude had a particular hang up.
I have never had to think about a background check. I have never gotten to the stage that would require one of those.
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You think you know. But you have no idea.
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