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This subject is as tired as they come!
A brother posted this on my college's alumni website before and the answer is quite simple, it's no!
You can only be scared if you scare yourself.
You need to know who you are and what you are about before you are willing and capable of stepping up to somebody and asking them to consider to date you, much less even think of "go with" you or even marry you.
It has nothing to do with being a Black woman or man, it's about being able to know who you are and what you are/aren't willing to put up with.
Everything is constantly pointed out at how "sista's" are and act like such and such. However, why don't people look at it from the other side of the spectrum. What is a "brotha" acting like or what what is a "brotha" about.
It goes back to the old saying, when you're pointing one finger, there are three pointing right back at you.
Whomever came up with this article was half-cocked and half-thinking to begin with. It sounded like a personal question that they wanted to make a public battle. However, it needs to be looked at why the need to air your personal and private battles?
If a person doesn't want to date a Black woman, fine and good, because there is surely someone else who wants to date them. If a person has a problem with a "sista's" attitude, they should look at the attitude that is constantly given to the sista first. If a person doesn't want to deal with a "woman of color's" behavior, they need to look at what their behavior is first.
This article verges on stupid and inane and should have never been posted, printed, or written to begin with.
If you don't know who you are and what you are willing to bring to another person's table, then YOU, yes you need to keep it going.
If you don't know what you are/aren't willing to put up with in a relationship, then YOU, yes you, need to re-examine your values and define who you are as a person.
If you don't want to "date/go with" a woman that is Black or "acts Black" then do like they do it on Soul Train, keep the line moving, because YOU aren't the ONLY person in the world!
Sisters are who they are, people are who they are, and yes, we all have quirks, annoyances, and behaviors that we can/could/should/would re-examine, but life continues to keep one moving.
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