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Disconnected and disrespected are two different issues, though im sure the disrespect can lead to feeling disconencted.

i always find that having an outside intermediary helps to talk things out. My undergrads have selective hearing - they take whatever they want to hear from me and the rest is white noise. I invited a couple of sorors from my graduate chapter to talk issues through and it was helpful.

The "feeling disrespected" often is chalked up to miscommunication and different living styles. Living with one roommate is hard enough, but a house full of sisters is bound to cause non-stop drama and feelings being hurt.

When i was an RA years ago, our staff created a 48-hour rule: if you are feeling disrespected or slighted in some way, take 48 hours to think on it, and if you still feel the same, address it then. this way, you dont get people in screaming matches over "remember when you did X 4 months ago? i was so mad!"

As for disconnected, simple events indoors are fun-watching TV shows together, a few sorors in my chapter started a book club, another group started a dinner club. Or, you could try doing events with nearby chapters. I know this doesnt often happen in NPC houses often (and someone can correct me if im wrong) but maybe some friendly fun with sisters that arent in the house? you can do crafts together, teach each other house chants, etc.

Ok that's all i got. Just know that its not just on you to work out chapter issues. Push people to solve their own issues, and dont be afraid to involve others when necessary.