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^Wow. That is horrible.
I think people should just be getting to know each other "in the present" when they first start dating. The past should come in later in relationships because who we were in the past is secondary to who we are now. However, if your past is intruding on your present, that needs to come out sooner than later. Like if you had children in the past, they are still there in the present. Maybe not bring them up right after you introduce yourself, but not after being engaged. If you don't have unprotected, casual sex anymore that's great. But if having done that at some point left you HIV positive, that needs to come up.
As far as family issues, finances, fertility issues...let it all come out when you're ready to say it. But don't wait till after the wedding or even just before the wedding to be honest. At my friend's wedding, her pastor didn't ask if anyone knew any reason the 2 should not be together. He asked the two of THEM if there was anything they needed to confess to each other because once the deal is done, there is no turning back. That was what they really need to ask during weddings, lol.
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