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My cousin has Asberger's, and although he has many friends and is pretty normal, he can be very off putting the first time you meet him. He has some trouble picking up unfamiliar social cues, too. This could be the problem. Sorority rush, especially FR, is all about first impressions, and quick ones at that (and as it's unlike almost any other social interaction, most of the social cues ARE unfamiliar), so you could have simply had trouble making a good impression.
If you're still interested in joining a sorority, my best advice would be to make friends with the girls, and try to do more informal recruitment events. That way there will be girls who know you who can say "Oh, yes, I know she seemed a little abrupt, but I think she actually has _____ that we're looking for." There are lots of girls who are simply not very good at the quick, glossy recruitment of Formal, and do better with the quieter, longer process of COR.
A good read for you might be Strwberrygloss' Re-recruitment thread -- she discusses her previous unhappy recruitment and, at the end, everything she did to have a productive rush the next year!
Good luck!
[NOTE: I'm not saying you're antisocial, or awkward or anything like that. I'm mostly basing this off of my cousin, and trying to imagine what he might be like in a situation like this. As I said, he's a good guy, but "abrupt" would be the best word to describe him when he's in an uncomfortable situation. He knows, after years of unfortunate conversational mishaps, that he tends to say the exact wrong thing, so he'll answer things as quickly as possible until he's comfortable.]
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