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Originally Posted by MasonsInquiries
well, i could've gone on & on & on & on & on with my post, but i just wanted to hit on what i thought were the "key" parts. i didn't mean to make it sound like "ALL men know how to love and most women dont", so i apologize for not making myself clear.
HOWEVER, i will ask all you guys this; the image that's been pinned on my beautiful sistas by not only society, but other black men and women (sistas' are LOUD, sistas' are COMPLICATED, sistas' are THIS, sistas' are THAT)....... where on earth did it come from? the title of this thread is called "Are Black Women Scaring Off Black Men", so i wanted to keep it on topic. should you guys want to create a thread called "Are Black Men Scaring Off Black Women", i would probably respond to that thread just as much as i am to this thread.
the responses i get from this question is going to be interesting; and please don't tell me that the image just fell out the sky from the backroads of a hick town......lol. |
All stereotypes come from somewhere (including those about Black men) but that doesn't mean that they are true in a great or majority capacity. This is what many don't seem to get. If you are being truthful, then it's really a shame that you've had such experiences but you have not met most Black women, so MOST would not be the right word to use. SOME according to your personal experiences would be more accurate. Perhaps it's the circles that you have been part of or perhaps it's you. Sometimes we all need to take inventory and look at ourselves; sometimes we are the problem or part of the problem. I'm not trying to be negative or funny either. Among the many books that have impacted my life immensely over the years, probably one of my top five is one by Osho (I've read many of his books), called "Journey to the Heart." This book will encourage you to be more calm, peaceful, and patient with people and yourself. I am a Humanist so I work at understanding people better since we are often too hard on ourselves and others (which is why sometimes I break down and help the trolls on GC...DrPhil sometimes scolds me for doing this...LOL!). Anyway, the book includes real life examples and stories of how one can change an outcome or circumstance merely by thinking before they react and changing their response or reaction to things. Individuals have the power to choose a social outcome in many cases. Although, I am still a work in progress and will always be, in some cases I try to stop and think first before reacting or responding to a situation or person. Sometimes more understanding and empathy is required but I have been able to change many outcomes by responding positively instead of negatively and offering solutions instead of being a part of the problem. Good luck to you in finding that Black woman that will change your mind if that's what you seek but I am blessed to have so many beautiful, intelligent, loving, and supportive Black women in my life.