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This is the whole thing about perception vs. reality that I think a lot of people my age struggle with. So guys perceive ABC's pledge class to be not good because they aren't "hot" like XYZ. That's a perception, that's not a truth. The fact that they perceive your pledge class as "bad" or even "unattractive" does not automatically make it a truth.
I bet you there are plenty of attractive girls in your sorority. On top of that, even if there wasn't a single one (yet to see a chapter where that is the case) the things that make a sorority good are often far more difficult to discern by somebody who isn't in it: involvement, cliques, retention, programs, social events, philanthropy and money raised, sisterhood nights, etc. Not all sororities are as good as the others on those points at any campus (and it is often scattered about the tiers...there will be the top tier with awesome sisterhood and the top tier with terrible sisterhood, the bottom tier with awesome sisterhood and the bottom tier with terrible sisterhood, etc). THAT is what you should be focused on.
In short, are you really going to let a guy who maybe knows 3 or 4 sisters out of your entire sorority tell you how good or bad it is vs. YOU who knows all the sisters and the inner-workings of the sorority? Gossip is not that serious, you know the truth and that truth is the only reality in this situation, not somebody's perspective.
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