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Originally Posted by JuliaNJ
I just came back from dinner with people from Alpha Sigma Tau. I had a really good time.
I obviously knew the girl I had a class with. The other two girls I recognized but didn't know. They're all juniors like me. They were definitely a lot more girly girly than me. But they were really friendly and welcoming. They were really happy to hear that I was interested. None of them brought up my newspaper column, which was a relief. They also said that I had an "interesting" style about me, which I took as a compliment. I told her that I was thinking about changing it up a bit to be more "normal." They laughed when I said that and said that they thought it was weird that I said something about them being "normal."
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First of all, I'm happy to hear that my sisters on the opposite end of the state are so nice and welcoming
Because of that, I hope you're understanding that it's ok for you to be yourself. These girls were happy that you were interested in their sorority, they liked that you were unique, and they actually thought it weird that you said you want to be more "normal". That should tell you something.
Remember, also, that you don't HAVE to do everything that they're doing. If they're going to a club that you don't want to go to, don't go. One of the currently active sisters from my chapter doesn't really like mixers that are at fraternity houses. She'll show up for an hour (if they're mandatory), and then head out. The sisters know this, and they're ok with it. Don't feel like you have to do/like everything that the sisters are interested in.
But my motto is: try everything once (well, almost everything
) When I came to college, I HATED country music. People in southern NH/Massachusetts weren't really that big on that type of music, and it wasn't exactly something I was exposed to on a daily basis. But then I came to PA for school, and some of my sisters asked me if I wanted to go to a country bar one night. Of all the bars in Erie, PA (and trust me, there are a lot of them), they wanted to go to one that would be playing country music ALL night. I sucked it up and I went.. I figured if nothing else, it would be a fun night out with the sisters.
But I honestly had the most fun I've probably ever had at a bar that night. I think I might have recognized one or two songs, but the music was so upbeat (and some of the lyrics were hilarious), how could anyone not have a good time?!
But.. there are some sisters who wouldn't be caught dead in a bar like that. And that's alright.
And why not invite some of the sisters to something that you're doing? This past semester, some of the PNMs had invited the sisters to see a movie one night, and to go bowling another. You could always ask some of them to do something that you're interested in. You might be surprised at what they like.
ETA: Don't put so much emphasis on what you're wearing/what you like/what music you listen to. It will become very apparent to people that you're trying too hard. Just relax and be yourself!