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Originally Posted by lalalala.

Was it everything you thought it would be?

i ask this because i am now pledging a sorority (im a junior btw) and it wasnt at all what i expected. A lot of people told me before i joined that sorority life is what you make of it. But as of right now, i have yet to have gotten close to anybody, especially the sisters, and we will soon be picking our big sisters. Everyone else, especially the freshmen, seem to be having so much fun already & so close with everyone..i feel a bit left out..i dont know if it will get any better or if i should just leave before it gets any worse and i pay for something that wasnt worth it...
i also want to be more involved but right now i cant with all the studying i have to do.

so how was your experience? did you have trouble in the beginning like me? do you have any suggestions for me?

Your experience is not abnormal by any means.

It is a common misconception that everyone in a sorority becomes BFFs immediately.

For some, it happens like that.

For others, it takes some time. Any worthwhile relationships take time to build them up.

I don't know how involved you are right now, but I will say that it is impossible to feel at home and get to know girls without making an effort to get to know girls and participate in events.

Also, in terms of meeting and getting to know girls, friendships in a sorority are a two-way street and sometimes, girls think that they are going to magically make friends by waiting on other sisters to ask them to hang out.

Not so.

You have to be pro-active about making friends.

It doesn't have to be some huge thing. Hear a couple girls talking about going to Starbucks? Ask if you can come. Doing lunch on campus, Facebook a couple of girls and ask if they want to come too.

Involvement doesn't have to be huge either. You don't have to be an officer. You'd be surpried how many people you meet just going over to the house or central gathering place and helping with something small like painting Homecoming signs.

This is some of the best advice I can give.

At the end of the day, your experience is what YOU make it. Good luck!