[KSUViolet06]

Originally Posted by sadpnm

Hi everyone!

Thanks for all of your posts, they made me feel a lot better! Anyway, I did a lot of thinking and I think I was so enamored by this chapter for the wrong reasons. Don't get me wrong, I still think they're great girls, but I think I was looking to be their superhero and get them out of their struggling state. Like I said, I've been reading GC all summer and I guess everyone's advice to girls in the opposite situation of mine (more leadership opportunities, chance to turn the chapter around, etc.) really appealed to me!

The only bad thing was something that my friend did. She was invited back to the chapter that dropped me and apparently told them how much they had hurt me! She came back from the party and was like "you're gonna love me!" but I'm actually really embarrassed and hope that doesn't get around to the other chapters. According to her, she told them that a lot of PNMs think they're huge bitches for cutting me. I'm not sure if she said those exact words or if she just said it for storytelling purposes (I'm hoping the latter...) but I'm a little nervous about how it will affect me...

I'm off to recruitment now! I'll let you all know how it goes later!

I think it's good that you recognized the fact that the "superhero to the small chapter" mentality isn't always good.

It IS good to want to get involved, but it's not good to sort of want to take on a chapter as a "project" so to speak.

In terms of your friend's comments, I would think that her bringing this up during recruitment would reflect more poorly on her than it would on you.

Now, it has happened that a girl was rubbed the wrong way by a PNM's comment and told a girl in another chapter, and caused her to get cut. But being as it's not something YOU said, it's not likely.