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Originally Posted by sadpnm

Okay, so I'm going through recruitment right now... just finished the second night.

Like at most schools, mine has a struggling, not as popular chapter. I decided (because I stalked GC all summer) to give them a shot and not listen to all of the not so good things that people were saying about them and, surprise of all surprises, I LOVED my time there. I met four girls who were all so cute and sweet and we had amazing conversations and I really felt like I belonged. So I ranked them first.

I got my schedule tonight and was happy to find that I had a full schedule and had only been dropped by one sorority... until I realized that the one that had dropped me had been my favorite. From what I could tell (and I talked to a LOT of girls) I was the only one that had not been invited back.

I'm so upset about it. I actually think it hurts more than if I had been dropped by a top group, because with a really popular sorority there could have been a lot of reasons, like I may have fallen through the cracks or just not ranked high enough. With this sorority, I know it's something personal and I can't figure out what I did wrong... I really thought they liked me

I guess I'm not really looking for advice because I know none of you can tell me what went wrong, but I need to vent and have no one to talk to. I can't talk to my mom because she doesn't understand because she's not greek. I tried to talk to my friend in my rho gamma group, but all she said was that I'm lucky I didn't have to go back there. And yes, she was invited back and not happy at all about it.

I went to my parties and had a good time, but I just feel so hurt and want to know what I did. Why they didn't like me as much as I liked them

Thanks for giving me a space to complain... have you ever heard of this happening to a girl?

I'm sorry to hear that you are upset. It's pretty normal to be upset when cut from a favorite chapter.

As you have said, we can't tell you why you were cut because we weren't there. There could be any number of reasons.

Many times, PNMs assume that smaller chapter = automatic invite back, and that isn't always the case.

Just because a chapter is smaller, doesn't necessarily mean that they aren't going to cut women. They make choices just as the others do.

Also, unless you have spoken to every single PNM, you don't really know for sure if you were the only person this chapter cut.

Regardless of why you were cut and how many other girls they cut, there's nothing you can do about it at this point.

I suggest that you just keep going with recruitment (after all, you have a full schedule).

Best of luck.