Hi everyone! I have just recently joined this site after finally becoming aware of its existence and I was hoping I could have a few questions answered if at all possible
I went through recruitment not really knowing what to expect, but I ended up loving the whole process and the idea of a sorority. I am a legacy at the same college my mother went to, but that really wasn't the basis for me going through it. However, because I didn't know what to expect, I was kind of confused as to how everything worked during recruitment. I had an open mind the first day and discovered I really liked some sororities in particular. The next day I was cut by my top four, (including my legacy, which I understand isn't guaranteed) and I was okay with that, but to be honest, my Rho Gams never really went over how the mutual selection worked and a ton of girls were left confused. At first I was kind of sad, but I thought to make the best of it and move on with what sororities were left! I ended up liking a lot of them that I didn't think I had a connection with and was very excited to proceed!
Yet, in the middle of the week (our formal recruitment spreads over two weekends) I get a call from my Rho Gam saying that they had to cut a ton of girls since they had double the amount from last year. Personally, I thought this was strange since I had no idea what the basis was for it. I'm sure people say this all the time, but out of the 5 sororities I still had left, I thought that I had made some connection with at least one of them. So basically, long story short, I never got to enjoy skit or preference night.
I was sad because I was a girl who never thought to be one to go Greek, and suddenly, I grew to love the idea after I went through recruitment, albeit only "half" of it.
However, I got really excited when a sorority messaged me on bid day to extend an invitation to their informal event. I was over the moon and was so happy at the event last night. All the girls were so much fun and I thought everything was going along smoothly. There was no pressure and we were just hanging out as girls having a blast. Yet, once more, I didn't get that call at the end of the night saying I got a bid, and the 5 other girls who were with me at informal all did.
Not to sound cocky by any means, but I am a very happy-go-lucky person that likes to laugh and I feel I am a really positive gal. I guess I'm just confused on what I did wrong, so to speak, if it seemed like all the girls in the sorority and myself were getting along and having a good time.
I know that no one has the answers as to the specifics, and I know these posts come and go all the time, but really, I'm so lost as to what goes into consideration come bid time...or even recruitment in general as I am still confused as to how they could just cut some girls in the middle of the week like that.
There are a few sororities still doing informal recruitment this week, but I don't know if that is invitation only. Also, because of the amount of girls, I think this will be the only time they do informal this year. I really want to be apart of the Greek Life, as I think that I could learn so much from these women, and that eventually I could bring something to the table as well.
Any tips about how to go about this? Anything is appreciated and know I am not asking for sympathy, but a genuine interest as to what to do. Thank you so much for future responses!
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