[ASTalumna06]

If you still think you might want to be Greek, I would truly try to get to know some of the sisters in the sororities, including the one that you turned down. As some have already said, chapters can sometimes be VERY different after recruitment ends.

Sometimes, a girl will get into her DREAM chapter... only to find out that the dream was just that... a dream. When reality kicks in after bid day, some girls find that they went after that chapter for all of the wrong reasons.

On the other hand, you could be like me, and go through recruitment (granted, it was informal, but this example still applies), and find that the sisters aren't as "welcoming" as you had hoped. One or two girls really stood out as being potential sisters, but as a whole, you didn't feel that "click". But after the first ceremony, when everyone hugs you, gives you a huge congratulations, and makes sure to include the new members in as much as possible, you know you're in the right place.

And actually, I was completely surprised to get a bid in the first place. While my main "rusher" picked me up at my dorm to bring me to recruitment events, I didn't feel like the rest of the sisters would accept me. I was a lot more reserved back then when in new social situations, while they all appeared to be social butterflies and very talkative (at least with each other). It was actually rumored that they were the "most selective" chapter (mainly in the appearance department), and were stuck up, so to speak. I found out later that this clearly wasn't the case (although I wasn't too sure during recruitment).

As with any situation, getting to truly know someone in a matter of days, hours, and sometimes minutes, isn't exactly easy. I'm sure you've met people in your life who you weren't too sure of in the beginning, but once you got to know them, you realized that they're great people who may have just come off the wrong way to start.

If you really want to be Greek, I would aim to meet as many people in the Greek community as possible and hope for the best in the upcoming months. And if you made any friends in your recruitment group, stay close with them. I've heard of this working to the benefit of some potential members in the past.

Whatever you do, keep your grades up, get involved in other clubs/organizations/activities, and just be sure that if you do go through recruitment again (whether formal or informal), keep a completely open mind about all of the groups, and try to give everyone a fair chance.

Good luck.