[KSUViolet06]

Be honest. If you are friends, I would hope that you'd be able to tell her "look, Suzie needs recs or she's toast" or "there is no way that you can DEMAND that she get preferential treatment" without her being offended.

You can even preface it by saying that you love Suzie (as I'm sure you do) and want to see her succeed.

Do you have any other mutual friends who are knowledgeable about recruitment and can tell her the same things you have already tried telling her?

Sometimes hearing the same stuff from a different friend may help her to realize that you aren't just making up the fact that no one's mom can "demand" their kid's way into a chapter.

If all else fails, just let her do it. I know it will be tough to see a friend unknowingly hurt their daughter like that, but sometimes you have to let things happen.