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Do you attend a school where recommendations are accepted? If so, there may have been other PNMs with more compelling recommendations. Similarly, on many campuses, your high school transcript and resume are very important. If your grades in high school weren't super high, or you didn't commit yourself to extracurriculars, the sororities may have been more impressed with other women.
It also doesn't mean they intentionally "cut" you per se, they just didn't put you at the top the list. You could feasibly have been just one spot short of being invited back (I'm sorry if that makes you feel worse instead of better). Perhaps there were a large number of legacies, or PNMs that knew active sisters well.
As for spring rush, I would suggest meeting sisters in the various chapters and getting to know them. Truly hitting it off and becoming friends with someone is going to mean a lot more than a 20 minute rush conversation, and so they're more likely to pull for you.
And as for the group that did invite you back, I would really try to get to know them better. In my experience on both sides of rush, chapters often are better than PNMs at predicting good matches. I see women who are lukewarm entering chapters that are thrilled to have them, and a few months later they're never seen without letters.
Best of luck!
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