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I must be "old school"
I didn't get to see the original question(was it deleted by the OP?).
I'm sure that depends upon both the individual and the chapter. As to whether someone should entertain the idea, I think it's not a good idea especially at the undergraduate level. Being young, a student and a soon-to-be mother are a lot on a person's plate. If asked, I would advise a young lady to wait until her child is born and older and she finishes school so she is more financially stable. My views don't change even if the young lady is married, but I'd especially advise young single moms-to-be to wait.
As to grad chapter, if a young lady were financially stable and pregnant(single OR married), if she possessed the qualities of a qualified candidate, I'd advise her to go for it after her baby is born and is a year or older. I know young married woman in this position and I advised her to wait.
As another poster stated, an invitation to membership is a privilege, not a right. Pregnancy and motherhood to an infant are both physically taxing and emotionally demanding, as active membership in a sorority can be as well. Trying to tackle both as an undergrad while being a student AND a mother (whose first priority should be her child) might be unfair to the chapter, her co-initiates/line sisters and the child. Additionally, the child will only be an infant for so long and those moments with the child are precious and fleeting. If she really wants it, AKA can wait and graduate chapter is always an option down the road.
As to my personal views on the married candidate vs. single candidate, I'm definitely "old school".
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