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Originally Posted by tootiepie
Although there are those girls out there who do all the thing the APhiAnna wrote about I think it is really hard for some girls to really show their personalities in the atmosphere of recruitment. Of course I think my daughter is fantastic and any sorority would have been lucky to have her. She was special in her small class of 46 but not so outstanding when you have 800 other girls to compete against!! Added to the fact that she is a very reserved girl she really struggled to let her personality show during rush. Her friends who had more outgoing personalites had no problems at all. She was very lucky and got a bid to a sorority that she loved but she is still struggling with getting to know the girls and feeling comfortable with them.
I think for most girls it probably the same, I don't think most girls that get cut heavy are just crazy party animals who have slept with half the guys on campus ( at least I hope not) I think they are probably just nice average girls like my daughter. The sad part is that I think that these girls are probably the ones that turn out to be the best sorority members. The ones that like to be the center of attention are sometimes all flash and no substance.
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Oh, I absolutely agree. One of the things on my list was being shy, which I think is the far more likely case than any of the "slut/stuck-up/crazy story" scenarios. The problem with being shy is that it rarely makes the person disliked by sisters, but it rarely makes them memorable, and sometimes if they aren't memorable they can easily fall through the cracks.
I think the majority of girls who have bad rushes are probably shy or reserved, which is why they usually shine through COB.
Most of the "extreme" items on that list, IMHO, occur rarely. But when a mother comes on and says, "my daughter is the most outgoing person in the world, modeled for Victoria's Secret, found a cure for the common cold and spent a year living in Tibet helping the poor and got dropped by all chapters" you have to wonder. Maybe she is not as outgoing or stunning looking as the mother believes, but if she is then she probably did something very extreme to not get invited back to ALL (!) of the chapters.
I can totally see a shy girl falling through the cracks even though she is a great person. But I have a hard time believing that somebody who reportedly has such a great personality, stunning looks, great grades and extracurriculars, etc. can truly "fall through the cracks"...if all the claims are true then there is usually something else to the story.