Looking back, in It's a Wonderful Life style,
If only I had decided not to accept the bid, just because my really good friend in the dorm received a bid to a different house on bid day, what would have happened?
-I would never have been recruitment chair and on the executive board of my chapter
-The sorority women who brought me meals after I had my first child, and visited me when I was a struggling new mom, would not be there for me
-The sorority alum who wrote a grad school reference for me would not have done so
-My sorority sister and closest friend would not have been my maid of honor and godmother to my little girl
-The alumna chapter that has been at my side during the tough times in life as well as well as when I have had moments to celebrate, wouldn't be around
-I would not have become a respected and high-level leader within my GLO
Trust me when I say, even after pledging, many women experience doubts and second thoughts. You just have to remember that it becomes what you make of it. I hope you make a choice that gives you the chance to create those experiences for yourself. The ranking that you give a house after a week or so of meeting all these people...maybe, just maybe, it won't be the same if you give this house, and yourself, a chance.
By the way, the friend who took a different bid? Well, she's still my close friend today, almost 20 years later.